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Welcome to Man-to-Man
- Charles O. Anyiam-Osigwe Coordinator
So you are interested in dating an older woman?
Why? Is it that you do not find women your age interesting?
Or is it that you want a mother figure to take care of you?
Or you just have a thing for older women?
Whatever your reasons for being interested in an older woman, I would assume that young men who prefer dating older women do so because they find that older women are more experienced, mature, smart, and may have the means provide for his material needs. Older women on the other hand may like that the young man is smart and mature enough to appreciate the assets they have to offer.
Now for you young men who want to date older women, here are a few don’ts.
- WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT FOCUS ON THE AGE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU.
Older women are self-conscious, and your partner may worry about how she compares to women your age. Therefore you have to compliment her a lot, but don’t complement her with references to age. Don’t say you look like you’re 30 when she is a woman in her late fourties. It is far better to acknowledge that she is beautiful and you find her very attractive. And whatever you do, don’t refer to her as a Cougar.
- DO NOT BE THE ONE TO BRING UP THE POSSIBILITY OF MARRIAGE.
In most cases I have come across, a mature woman dating a much younger man has no intention of marrying the younger man. The older woman often has very clear ideas what she wants from the younger man. Usually they want a good sexual relationship with a virile young man, and want to keep it simple and uncomplicated. Therefore, I would advice the younger man to let the woman take the lead when it comes to issues such as marriage – do not be the first one to bring it up, but see how the relationship evolves and note the demands of your partner.
- KEEP YOUR YOUNG GIRLFRIENDS OUT OF THE PICTURE.
Even though you may want to explore your options of a life partner, do try your best to avoid her finding out that you have a girlfriend your age. If she finds out, this may hurt her feelings considerably, and you are definitely going to be dropped like a hot potato.
- PLEASE BE AWARE THAT YOU MAY BE A KEPT MAN.
If this is the case in your situation, you cannot call on your “Sugar Mummy” at will. She calls the shots as long as the relationship lasts. The minute you stop understanding this and think she is your babe, you are looking at the end of the relationship.
- BE WILLING TO LEARN FROM HER.
Young man, an older woman has a lot to teach a much younger man. If you an eager student, you will gain a lot. She has garnered a lot of life’s lessons, and you can benefit from her tutelage if you have the humility to learn.