In this day and age, there are many successful women in their late thirties and early forties who are single and in need of a man in their lives. There are also a lot of young men in their twenties and early thirties looking for scarce jobs, and are ready, willing and available to be kept by the single, successful older ladies. Is there a future for them together?
One can postulate that marriages with a significant age gap can work, but this seems to be so when the couples are older, and only when the two people involved are mentally mature.
You may or may not be aware that once upon a time in the land of Hollywood there lived a beautiful actress who’s name is Demi Moore, a shining example for women of a certain age who appeared to have it all. She in her forties was the older woman who could get any young man she wanted. A lady of significant wealth, Demi could take care of the visible signs of aging and seemed not to age with the passing years like mere mortals. Demi Moore (ex-wife of Bruce Willis – they divorced in 2000) married Ashton Kutcher in 2005. Kutcher was 27, and Moore was 42. She was living proof that an older woman could “catch” a younger man and “live happily ever after”, as gleaned from the Hollywood spin of the perfect match that was put out daily across tabloids and social media.
As it turns out this is no fairy tale but real life. Theirs was definitely not a marriage made in heaven. After six years of marriage, following repeated allegations of Ashton Kutcher’s infidelity, the couple parted ways in 2013. Announcing her divorce from her cheating husband, Demi Moore said: ‘As a woman, a mother and a wife, there are certain vows I hold sacred.’
This is a cautionary tale for women who, for one reason or the other put off marriage when they were much younger in pursuit of their careers and have bought into the modern myth that they can have it all at any age — the notion that you can pay for a new face, a new body or even a new baby when you’re too old to have one.
No matter how rich you are, you cannot defy nature – money is not enough to buy a lasting relationship. Successful marriages are mostly born of a shared history, of raising children together, of memories, of the joys and the hardships, and the pleasure of looking at your partner in the morning and being able to count each other’s wrinkles and laughter lines.
Most young men like Ashton who are involved with older women prefer the excitement of sharing a bed with a fine beautiful girl closer to their age or younger than they are, rather than going home to a mother figure waiting for him in her big mansion.
And so ends this cautionary tale.